Sunday, December 2, 2012

I Think I Have Found Some of My Family!

This is a crazy post and a crazy story. Many of you know of my wish to meet or find my birth mother and family. This day has come and it was today! I am still in disbelief and trying to digest all that has happened. So here goes with "MY" story.

So most of you know that back in October I got a letter from the state of NY giving me all "non identifying" information on my birth mother. The letter gave me lots of information but no name. To top it off I have a friend from high school who works in the building where the letter came from. I recently made contact with her after not talking for over 20 years. She told me that she didn't even know where the files would be. I understood and in no way wanted to put her in a position where she'd lose her job. Several weeks later I realized that a family friend's husband was from the town that they thought I had come from. I called her up and she told me that her sister-in-law likes to help others trying to find family. So she was given information and had been doing some digging and questioning. She'd keep sending me information via Facebook and names that I should contact. So on a whim last night I decided to start doing some digging myself. So I "friended" a woman thought to possibly be my birth mother. The funny thing is that there were two profiles, so I friended both. I figured what did I have to lose? So she friended me and I began looking at her friends and family that she had posted. I friended people I thought that may be related to her. They friended me back and so it began. I then got a message back from one of her granddaughters. She explained that my now current last name was also in their family and she wanted to know how we were related. She apologized for being so forward but she wanted to know. I then responded back and told her I would be forward with her and that I was searching for my birth mother and her family. She then responded back that she would call me. Okay. And she did. We talked briefly and she told me that she would talk with her mother. She called me back and her mother confirmed that she wouldn't be surprised if her mother had me because there had been some things about her mother that she did not know. I told this woman that I in no way wanted to cause any problems nor wanted anything from their family, that I just wanted to know. She told me that she understood and that she would do some more searching and asking questions. So here I sit knowing that most certainly this may be my family that I found in just a couple of hours of Facebooking. Is this really possible? So to Mark Zuckerberg, I say THANK YOU for creating this wonderful social network and for probably helping me find my birth mother and her family. If this is my family, I have two half-sisters and two half-brothers. WOW! 

So what next? I have told the lady I spoke with today that there is DNA testing to confirm, etc. She said that her mother is willing to do this and this is something that my husband wanted me to do earlier this year. I did not. I guess everything happens for a reason and that my life could significantly change in coming months. I never thought I would see this day. I hope to remember it for the rest of my life!

So to everyone out there who has wondered about there birth mother or family,  I say never give up and always believe that dreams can come true.

Love to you all and will update more as things transpire. I hope to meet my birth mother in person if this is indeed the right person.


  1. This is exciting news but please don't set yourself up for heartbreak. This road can lead you down paths you may not want to go. I pray that you'll find the happy ending you are anticipating.

  2. Michelle, what an incredible story! I hope this is your relatives and that this is a positive experience for you & your family. xoxo